Does Your Story Include the Life of You Really Want?


Last week I mentioned that I was reading the book “Trance of Scarcity” and I was sharing my thoughts on  Marketing Beyond the Trance of Scarcity.  This week our guest blogger, success expert, coach, author and speaker Lynden Kidd will be sharing with us her view on  the chapter in “Trance of Scarcity” about ‘stories’ and how they impact our ability to create the results we deserve in life.

We all have a story about ourselves. It usually starts mundanely with; ‘I was born on (fill in the blank date) in (fill in the blank location).’ We also love to tell stories about everything around us. Additionally, we learn powerfully from them too.  So, then it seems logical that we’d be empowered by our stories; that they would be informative, uplifting and renewing and that we would tell good ones, rich, juicy benevolent ones about ourselves and each other. NOT. Have you seen the headlines?  Have you heard about the US economy; about the European one?  What about your own story?  There isn’t much of a silver lining in anything in the headlines and many of us have chosen really awful personal stories.

With bad news all around us; how do we avoid the instinct to simply hunker down and to wait out this economic winter hoping that spring will arrive before we perish or run out of cash, investments and patience?  Answer: we live intentionally.

Each of us is in control of how we respond to the events that happen in our lives, and we craft what happens to us from adolescence through all of our adult years.

Living a life on purpose or a life of intention is very different than trying to get our personal and professional circumstances to behave. Intentional living means living out loud and in a way that aligns us with what really works – being confident, being resilient and exultingly achieving success in our lives and our work.

So, how do we do this you might ask?   The most successful among us examine our stories and lives for “limiting” beliefs.  We intentionally reviewing what is serving us and what isn’t any more.  We focus on the stories and beliefs that serve us and discard all others.

The objective is to transform into a version of yourself that has a story that is worth telling.

Bottom line, intentionality means consciously choosing to write and live a better story. instead of just  bumping along like a leaf in a stream.  Here’s to great stories!

You can begin your journey for intentional living by attending Lynden’s day long Success by Design workshop on October 8th. Visit to register.

Use the Coupon code “NETWORK”  to receive $50 off the retail ticket price

Marketing Beyond the Trance of Scarcity

Trance of Scarcity Book

I recently started reading the book “Trance of Scarcity” by Victoria Castle as a part of a reading circle at the Center for Spiritual Living in Tucson. Since choosing to become a full-time entrepreneur in 2006 I have seen many ups and downs in business.  I know what it means to work really hard and stay focused and play even when I don’t see results or feel well.  I did this for several years and while I did see some business growth I always knew, that it was limited when compared to what I believed I was capable of.

Over the last year or so I have change may game plan a bit.  I have been making an effort to just relax, be happy, love my family, take vacations and enjoy life regardless of what the business was doing or not doing.

Please don’t hear this as “I decided to neglect my business” I still did all of the basic things I needed to do to run and promote my business. However, this time I did them from a place of joy and not obligation or fear.  When I would get out of this flow I would get back in by focusing on all the things I was grateful for.

The results have been amazing. I hired and contracted several employees this year and my marketing company Social Mobile Buzz is growing like a weed. While I do my best to practice my own marketing rules, I must admit that my largest business deals have come in spite of them.  I have shared how I have been creating these results with a few of my clients.  However, as of today, I will be making this message an even greater part of my consulting process.

Victoria’s book is a  great tool to support this mindset. I am very grateful that she took the time to write a book that provides such clear instructions on how to remain in the flow of abundance.


Why Customers Don’t Care about Your “Customer Service”



Based on this law, it is my firm belief that all failure in business stems from not delivering enough service to enough of the right people. As small business leaders it is easy to get caught up in goal setting, financial projections, creating the right sales pitch, finding the fastest path to get out of debt or become a billion dollar company and completely lose sight of the fact that a healthy business is one that truly renders service to mankind.

While focusing on strategic areas of our business is important, we must make a point not miss the big picture.

Assisting other people just like us to solve their problems is what service is really all about. This act is the derivative of all true wealth.

Unfortunately, the word “service” has become “too commercial,” and is often used in a sterile manner to describe how we will “manage” the people that “get lucky enough” to buy from us.

Guess what! Customers don’t care about your “Customer Service,” and no one wants to be managed or “handled.”

People that desire our assistance want to be treated with kindness, respect, human dignity, and yes, they also expect us to deliver on the promise of our company.

For years motivational and personal development speakers have been telling entrepreneurs and wealth seekers to visualize what one desires, write it down, do the work and your dreams will come true. Don’t get me wrong, this can work…but only to a small degree if all of the things you visualize are for yourself.

How many times have you stopped to genuinely ask yourself the question “how can I render more service to more people.” What processes would you have in place? How would you feel if today your company sold 1000 times more of your current product than you did all last year? Would you feel good about it or would you feel ashamed because what you currently offer has limited value or is poor quality? What support systems would you need established to deliver the best product and truly serve the most people at a fair price?

If you’re already rendering this level of service, great. Please share your experience. If this concept is new to you I’d love to hear your comments.

I Rule Money, Money Doesn’t Rule Me


If you’ve ever had the chance to attend a T. Harv Eckard, Millionaire Mind Intensive the phrase “I Rule Money, Money Doesn’t Rule Me” will sound familiar to you and bring back memories. If you haven’t had the chance to attend, I’d highly recommend it.

It’s been a while since I’ve actually attended one of Harv’s events. However, this week as I brought on another team member (aka employee) I was reminded of this phrase and what it means. Why? Because, this choice required me to stretch…again.

Today, I took some time to consider the aforementioned phrase. Here is how I understand its meaning.

One who is wise commands his money to perform the action of carrying out his vision (grow a business, build a new house, support a community, expand a country etc.), he creates a plan and mindfully releases the money (i.e. hires workers and pays for goods and services) to return with the desired results of his plan. He understands that money is energy. While it is aways working, it is never far and longs to return to its master because this is its duty and purpose.

The wise man knows that he must diligently and sometime evenly frugally manage the remaining money in his possession to achieve his goal.

He does not compare his results to his peers and is not discouraged by what he sees in his bank balance. He knows that his success no matter how great is for his growth and to enrich the lives of others. He expresses gratitude for all he has and is inspired by his vision of a better world because of his efforts.

On the converse, one who is afraid does not command his money. He is ruled by it. This individual has limited vision and allows his situation and others to dictate the worthiness of himself and his plans. He hopes that money will be kind enough just to stick around and not leave him poor and on the street. He prays and pleads that the “money god” will be merciful to him and grant him a discount, a break or , a “big” client or contract.

He is non-committal, undisciplined in his thinking, and obsessive about getting things for free. In fact, he unknowingly feels entitled to it. The person in fear only thinks of how money or the lack thereof will affect him or his family. It is difficult for him to see the full picture of how his choices affect others.

One who is ruled by money is a hoarder, regularly worrying that he will not have enough. He compares himself to others and is always second place in his mind. He complains about what he has, all the while never realizing that all that he has is sufficient.

The one who is afraid has yet to realize that money is here to serve him so that he can serve others.
Are you ruling money or are you living in fear?

What steps can you take today to begin taking command of your experience with money?

Champions Have Short Memories

The memory of a Goldfish is appx 3 seconds.

The memory of a Goldfish is appx 3 seconds.

Some times in business we are faced with challenges that hit us so hard emotionally, mentally, and/or financially, that we consider giving up on our dreams. During these times it is critical to remember that if we want to succeed and win like a champion. We must develop the habit of having a short memory.

I know you’re probably thinking that this is completely opposite from everything you’ve ever heard, but let me explain. I’m not talking about forget peoples faces and names after meeting them or conveniently forgetting to perform a task that requires significant effort.

When I say champions have short memories, what I mean is that we must develop the skill of letting go of past failures and let downs and allowing them to remain in the past so these events don’t cloud and prevent future successes.

We must practice forgiving ourselves and others even though we sometimes want to hold a grudge; we must practice being the bigger person and strengthening our resolve to move forward by putting systems or new practices in place that keep unsuccessful past events at bay.

Champions have short memories because they make a habit of learning, correcting past mistakes, and forgetting the pain, and drama associated.

Champions know that they can be right about “how bad their situations is” or they can be rich, happy, and/or living life on their terms.

What events and/or situations could you stand to have a shortened memory about today?

Winners Vs. Champions


Winners and Champions are two different animals.

Winner’s happen to win because they have developed a skill or talent that allows them to achieve a certain outcome. These individuals may be great people but just because they win doesn’t mean they are a champion.

How many times have you seen a professional athlete that claim’s he or she is not a role model. Even if this athlete were to win a championship ring for each finger, to me, he/she would not be a champion. Why? Because being a champion is an inside out job. It’s about who you are and how you choose to live your life.

Champions are Champions because they not only choose to master a craft or profession but because they have chosen to use that profession on craft as a tool to help them master life.

A champion’s entire life revolves around this goal of mastery. They do not give up, they don’t quit and most importantly they keep their commitments to themselves and others.

Champions visualize their goals daily and consistently do the work that others are unwilling to do or are only willing to do some of the time.

Champions are the highest caliber of leaders. Their very presence inspires other to greatness. Who is your greatest champion? How can you use your family, career, or business as a tool to harness the champion within.

How Are Your Money Goals Anchored?


Many times we unknowingly set anchorless goals, when it come to setting money goals. Let’s assume that you’ve become a rather sophisticated goal setter and goal getter.

You always make SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely) goals, you have an attitude of gratitude, you follow Napoleon Hill’s 6 steps to manifesting desire in “Think and Grow Rich” (pg 28) and you typically get the results you desire. However, when it comes to setting money goals, there seems to be a breakdown.

Maybe you’re even a little frustrated now because you haven’t been able to figure out why other goals are consistently achieved but not goals associated with money.

Well, this was my situation not to long ago. After some recent reflection and review of the money goals I’ve achieved over the years. I noticed that the money goals I’ve achieved all had something in common. They were always linked or anchored to something or some other goal.

What I’ve concluded is that in the case of money goals, when using the SMART goal method, “specific” doesn’t only mean how much money. It also means what do you specifically intend to use the money for.

Will it be used to start or grow your business, buy a new car, take a trip, etc. A quick caution, “paying off debt” as a goal is a poor goal. Why? Your mind can not see an image of no debt. Plus, you’re focusing on the debt which reinforces the “reality” of the existing debt.

It would be better to think about taking a cruise and feeling happy because you’ve achieved the lifestyle you desire…paid for of course by the money you’ve earned.

Being clear about the use of the money you desire creates what I believe to be an anchor in the world of thought. Having this anchor produces a mental picture, increases your belief, and provides the necessary excitement and motivation required to develop a clear plan that when acted upon will deliver your money goal a silver platter. What patterns have you noticed during your experience with the goal achievement process?

Are You Still Looking for “Good” Leads?


Today I had a wonderful conversation with my friend Jake. We were talking about lead generation and making good business contacts in Tucson. As I began to share with him some of the connections I had been making over the last several months, he interrupted me and asked, “Michael, how are you meeting all of these awesome people? What’s your secret to getting in the door?” And without skipping a beat (because, fortunately, I had asked and answered the same question last night during my evening walk), I told him, “there is no door.”

“I meet great business people because I focus on being a great person inside instead of looking to find great people on the outside.” As our conversation progressed, I shared with my friend that the highest caliber of people operate in a heightened mindset or consciousness. If one wants to even transact business with the real movers and shakers of the world, one most literally go to where they are mentally.

This is done by raising one’s level of awareness through concentration and consistent movement towards a worthy goal. The action of visualizing one’s goal creates a sense of emotional calmness and orders one’s thought. Orderly, thoughts produces purposeful action. Purposeful action creates positive feelings, high self-esteem, and causes one to deliver result in life.

Positive feelings backed by results heighten one’s visibility and causes successful people, (i.e. leaders) to take notice. Since leaders have orderly thoughts, high-self-esteem, and consistently deliver results in life, if you become like them who do you think they will want to do business with…You got it. YOU! I think Voltaire says it best in his famous 18th Century work Candid. “Tend your own garden.”

Do You live in a Proactive or Reactive World?



There are worlds within worlds when we consider the consciousness of ones mind or said more simply how one thinks about or views life. Today, I would like to talk about 2 of these worlds or states of mind.

The first world is the world of reactivity and the second is the world of proactivity. The world of reactivity is a world in which we identify with the premise that we are some how at the mercy of life, our culture, our races, society, others, G-d, or life situations. In this state of mind we are afraid of bad things happening to us and we are afraid that when good things happen, the other shoe is always waiting to drop. We actually believe there are good and bad things happening to us as oppose to neural events which we get to assign meaning to.

In the world of reactivity we are judgmental of others, and ourselves; we do not take time to choose thought patterns that that magnify the brilliant image of light were created in. Instead, we allow our minds to be unconsciously filled with thought patterns that may not serve us. These thoughts like all thoughts dictate our beliefs, moods, actions and life. In the reactive state we are only reacting to life as it presents itself to us instead of responding to and creating a world we are worthy of.

The reactive world is a consciousness of fear, lack, limitation and doubt about who we are, our abilities, and the purpose we have chosen for this life. In this consciousness we live for the sake of ourselves alone. There is no room for others because we are always there….reacting

In the world of proactivity we acknowledge and respond to life with gratitude, instead of resisting, shouting NO, blaming G-d or choosing to be angry or disappointed. We welcome life as a gift and look for the glimmer of light present in all people and all situations. We do not wait until painful situations come upon us to change. Instead, we seek out opportunities for growth even if they temporarily make us uncomfortable. We know that this form of work is a privilege and it strengthens the proactive mind.

In the world or proactivity, we see the world as One. It is a playground, a place of excitement, and our desire is to receive for the sake of sharing with others and not for the sake of ourselves alone….. In this state of mind we work with our heads and our hearts. We direct the power of love, passion, excitement, generosity, and authenticity to create a life whose very existence becomes “the cause” instead of an effect in the world.

In the proactive world we choose the life we desire and all of creation bends to the intention of this choice. We take 100% responsibility for all of the roles we play or have played in the world and we are constantly looking for ways to share our essence. The proactive state of mind is abundance. It exists only within the space of belief and certainty. Every time we choose the proactive mind we choose our most authentic self and allow the creative force to be expressed in the purest state.

Do Your Daily Disciplines Create the Results You Deserve?



This weekend, My wife and I had a monthly celebration dinner with or friends Derek and Monique. We started this ritual a month ago to celebrate our accomplishments and hold each other accountable for the goals we set.

After a wonderful dinner, the four of us were talking about consistency and the power of choosing 3-5 daily disciplines to accomplish each day so we can move forward in our business and in personal development.

I have taken on the challenge of performing certain task repeatedly in the past and have produced amazing results. I must admit, until now I had slacked up a bit.

Since Sunday’s conversation, I have decided to embark on this journey once more to see they new results I will create. Writing on the blog daily is one of them. Yikes!:)

Let me know what habits or disciples you perform each day to ensure your success. If you think you have none let me assure you that you do. They probably just aren’t helping you reach your goals. It’s OK to share these habits too. They can serve as examples of what not to do. Looking forward to your thoughts.